If you have children, you will know that the battle between them seems endless. Maintaining peace in the family is a difficult task for parents. We will assume that loving and caring is the main issue.
Anyone who has ever had a brother, sister or sister in the house can experience conflicts and understand the feeling of “rice is not healthy, not sweet soup” is like.
Signs of competition, conflicts include acts like fighting, quarrels, and anger. The moderate level of competition is a healthy sign that every child can express his or her needs. Conflict is an essential part of life, but parents should play the role of referee and coach to help children minimize it.
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Harmony children, happy family
Respect the needs of each child
Not every child likes to follow the parents’ wishes or prefer everything that their parents buy. So, first of all, parents should respect and meet the needs of each child.
For example, instead of buying the same gifts to avoid conflicts, consider buying different gifts that reflect their personal preferences. Before signing up for all your child’s soccer or piano lessons, ask each child’s opinion.
Comparing the ability of children can make them feel sad, unsafe and promote feelings of jealousy. Children may have negative emotions that lead to hostility, quarreling and divisions among brothers and sisters.
Parents should remember to avoid discussing the differences between the children in front of them. When praising one of your children, describe your actions or accomplishments – instead of comparing that to your other siblings.
Each child is a separate individual, do not compare them to anyone
Set basic rules
You should set the basic rules and do not forget to teach them to follow that rule.
Make sure your child understands what you consider acceptable and unacceptable behavior when it comes to interacting with each other, as well as the consequences of misconduct. For example, do not encourage your children to criticize and adjust to each other.
Do not participate in battle
One of these is to encourage children to solve their own problems. Although you can help children solve disputes, you can still refrain from participating. When you discipline your children, avoid doing so in front of others – this can cause shame and confusion. If possible, take the child aside to discuss the child’s behavior.
Also, avoid using a nickname for a single child, as it can make other children jealous.
Let children solve their problems first
Predict the problem
If your child can not resolve the disagreement, or if they often break up on a problem, then help them to come up with a solution. For example, if the children have difficulty sharing, encourage the children to play with their own toys or plan for activities that do not require much cooperation – such as listening to music or playing hide-and-seek.
If your child scrambles to watch TV or other utilities, help them build a weekly schedule and explain the consequences of not following the schedule.
Listen to your child
When they quarrel, they can release negative words or feelings about each other. First, you need to show empathy, acknowledge their feelings. Do not take sides, you need to treat them fairly and listen to each one publicly.
If you also have brothers and sisters, share stories about some of your own childhood conflicts. Tell the story in a funny way and draw a good lesson for the kids
You can consider organizing regular family meetings to give your child the opportunity to talk and solve problems with each other. In addition, full-time family members also provide opportunities for speaking and listening.
Do not rush to judge but listen to me, parents!
Encourage good behavior
When you see children who treat each other well or work as a group, give them some compliments to motivate them.
Show your love
In addition to the general time for all children, parents create a space for each child, to share and perform special activities, reflecting their interests. Remind your children that you are always there for them and can give them any advice they need.
Remember, all siblings in the house have friction or arguments. This competition is normal. However, with the above, parents can confidently lay the foundation for a solid relationship between the children.